Joe has been increasing his alcohol use for several years, and now he’s drinking an entire bottle of wine or more, four to five nights a week. He doesn’t think he’s impaired; after all he’s built up a high tolerance. But his family is angry and embarrassed. Joe doesn’t drink at work, so he doesn’t think he has a problem. “So what if I like to have a couple of glasses of wine at the end of the week or on Saturday night”. He’s not like his uncle and his mother who drank heavily during the day and died from liver failure. But his family has an entirely different story about his alcohol use.... Read More
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The other night I was tired, hungry, and feeling overwhelmed when I got home from work. It was a long day. My wife, who had a cold for several days, asked me to do something. I barked back at her.
I felt terrible.
How often do we lose our temper at our children or our spouse? It frequently happens at the end of the day when we are exhausted. The kids ask us to do “one more thing” and we crack. We find ourselves yelling at a little kid, who looks back at us with an innocent, hurt look in his eyes.
We feel like ogres.
Dinner times can be tough too. Getting home... Read More
Why me? It’s a natural question when a family member dies before their time, when a relationship ends, or when we lose a job.
At first, we feel stunned. Deep inside, we expect that our lives should unfold uneventfully. We believe that we should be the master of our fate. Tragedy happens to others, but not us.
At the same time, our culture is filled with pictures of happy, satisfied men and women pursuing their dreams. When we are the victims of misfortune, we can feel let down by life. We may feel that something is wrong with us. We may feel that we did something wrong.... Read More
Several weeks ago, I was home recovering from a cold. Unable to do much, I found a manila envelope filled with letters I wrote to my mother when I was in my early 20’s. She kept these letters, and returned them to me when she was cleaning out a closet. They were typed on onionskin paper or handwritten. This is how we communicated in the 70’s. We called each other rarely—long distance calls were expensive. Some letters were from when I was college, but most of them were from my early years in graduate school in San Francisco.
When she sent me the letters in the mid 1990’s, she... Read More
Every day in the United States, thousands of baby boomers are turning 65. No wonder many of us hear about friends and family that are retiring or at least talking about it. I have several friends that took the big step.
Recently, I had lunch with two of those friends, long time Everett residents, Tracy Spencer M.D., retired physician and Jack Courrier D.D.S, retired dentist. Both practiced in Everett for over 30 years! Tracy and his wife are taking care of his mom, Dixie, who is turning 96 this summer. They love to chase after three grandchildren that live right down the street.... Read More
The other day a good friend wanted to know how to talk to her 25-year-old daughter, Sarah, about her drinking. During the big playoff game between the Seahawks and the Packers (now that was a miracle!), Sarah drank almost two six-packs of beer! Sarah’s parents were concerned and wondered if Sarah had a problem. They weren’t sure what to say to her.
A few days later, a parent asked me—“How do I talk to my 22 year old son, Bill, about his daily marijuana use?”
Anyone can develop a drug or alcohol problem. But how do you know if it’s a serious concern? Take the self-administered... Read More
Once again, it’s that time of year. On New Year’s Eve the clock strikes midnight and a new year is born. When I wake up on Thursday morning, will I be reborn? Sadly, I will still be a somewhat paunchy, (although I have great muscle definition underneath all of that fat!) balding, middle-aged guy, with a bunch of good and bad habits. Despite 2014’s good intentions, I haven’t changed much the last year.
I guess it’s time to go back to sleep!
New Year’s resolutions have fallen out of favor, largely because most adults fail miserably at keeping them. Newly acquired treadmills,... Read More
Jack opens up the mail and finds a letter from the IRS. His heart races as he reads that they are planning to do a full audit on his taxes for the last five years! Mary picks up the phone and learns that her Mom just had a heart attack. Sarah has an unexpected bad review from her boss. Phil is playing a great tennis game and breaks his ankle going after a ball.
Spring can turn to winter in a heartbeat.
Adversity, big or small, is a periodic unwelcome visitor to your home. Everything is going smoothly, and then there is a knock on the door, a telephone call, a text, or a... Read More