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Forgiveness

Dr. Paul | September 17, 2012 | 5 comments
 
Woman thinking

“To err is human, to forgive is divine” Alexander Pope, English Poet, Born 1668  

Today marks the beginning of the Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashanah, which culminates in 10 days on Yom Kippur, a day of atonement. It is a time to reflect on the past year, and to look ahead to the New Year. What do you want to develop in yourself? How do you want to be? In Judaism, the slate between you and your maker will start anew. But, whatever unfinished business you have with others is up to you to mend.   

It is one thing to acknowledge your mistakes and failings, and to “make amends” to... Read More

Holding on to Romantic Love

Dr. Paul | September 10, 2012 | 6 comments
 
Romantic senior couple

To see a world in a grain of sand,

And a heaven in a wild flower,

Hold infinity in the palm of your hand,

And eternity in an hour.

William Blake, Auguries of Innocence

Recently I spoke to a woman who has been married for 25 years. She has a lovely family, grandchildren, friends and a strong community. But she wondered about her marriage. She and her husband have a comfortable relationship, but there was little passion or... Read More

The emptying nest

Dr. Paul | August 22, 2012 | 3 comments
 
Going to college

This fall, thousands of 18 year olds will be leaving for college. It’s a huge transition for young people—adjusting to living away from home. But it’s a major life change for parents too. We have spent 18 years caring for, nurturing, and watching over our children. And, while our role as a parent has constantly changed as they have grown, they have always been under our roof.

I remember when both of my children started kindergarten—another big life event in our parental life. On that day, tears came to my eyes as I turned them over to the educational system.

I brought both of... Read More

Mothers and Daughters: BFFs?

Dr. Paul | August 08, 2012 | 3 comments
 
photo of mom and daughter

My wife (she is also a psychologist) and I just returned from spending a week on Cape Cod attending a conference. Our two adult daughters joined us for much of our stay. It was wonderful seeing both of them! I am always delighted to spend time with them.

In modern life, with cell phones at the ever ready, it is easier to stay in touch with adult kids that live far away than it was in my young adulthood. My parents had to rely on letters, because phone calls were expensive. But today, a regular call or text keeps us in touch at a very low cost. But it is no substitute for sharing a... Read More

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